Use frequently
- Empathy, attention and involvement, play, problem solving, listening and talking.
Increased benefits for child: problem-solving skills, cooperation, self-esteem and attachment.
- Coaching, praise, encourage, rewarding and celebrating.
Increased benefits for child: social skills, thinking skills and motivation.
- Clear boundaries, household rules and consistent follow-through.
Increased benefits for child: responsibility, predictability and obedience.
- Ignore, distract and redirect
Reduced: unwanted behaviours.
Use selectively
- Natural and logical consequences.
Reduced: agression.
A child's behaviour is not always what it seems
What we see: Behaviour
What we don't see: What's under the surface
- Social skills
- Basic needs
- Physical safety
- Need to belong
- Security
- Hunger
- Thoughts
- Executive functioning
- Environmental stressors
- Sleep
- Attachment
- Attention
- Power
- Sensory needs
- Emotions
- Self-esteem
- Development level
- Sadness
- Anger
- Need for attention
- Fear