Sometimes, a friend might tell you something upsetting. You might see or hear things when you’re at their house that just don’t feel right or maybe they are in a relationship with someone who could be shouting at them, putting them down, or hurting them in other ways. You might feel shocked, worried, or unsure what to do.
If you’ve witnessed someone else being hurt, it can leave you feeling sad, scared, or even helpless. But you’re not alone, and you don’t have to fix it by yourself. There are safe, kind ways to help. Here’s how you can support your friend safely:
- Listen without judging. Let your friend speak at their own pace.
- Tell an adult you trust. This could be a teacher, youth worker, family member, or school nurse. You're not betraying your friend - you’re helping them stay safe. Remember, if someone is in immediate danger, always call 999.
- Be careful with secrets. If your friend says “don’t tell anyone,” but someone’s in danger, it’s OK to get help. That’s not being mean - that’s being brave.
- Call a helpline or use a chat. If you’re not sure what to do, trained people can listen and guide you. For example, you can contact Childline online or phone them at 0800 1111.
- Look after yourself. Witnessing abuse can be upsetting. You deserve support, just like your friend does, so make sure you speak with an adult who can support you.